In life you have to be decisive. You have to make the difficult choices, and stand by the decision that you made.
Decision making didn’t always come naturally to me. In fact, around those most gloriously awkward pre-teen/teen years, I couldn’t make a decision to save my life. Now, however, it’s something that I believe should be taught more in school, but unfortunately during those formative years, we’re often left to flounder through life hoping that things work out.
Probably one of the biggest choices I faced at 18 was where I wanted to go to school and what I wanted to study. I always knew that I wanted to get a higher education, but in retrospect, a Bachelor of Arts probably wasn’t the direction I should have gone. Working in marketing is something that I’m so happy I get to do – but if I’m completely honest, I was very lucky to have found my career so young. And I realized, my post graduation struggles could have been a lot easier if I would have had graduated with a Bachelor of Commerce.
“If you sit on the fence you end up with splinters”
My high school history teacher once told this to the class. He may have been referring to our essay’s at the time, but it was something that really resonated with me. Goal setting is just decision making on crack. Essentially goal setting is figuring out what you want to do, and going after it in a strategic and – hopefully – calculated fashion. If you make partial or flimsy uncommitted choices, you’ll often get burned just as bad as if you were to make the wrong choice all together.
So how can you make choices based on what you believe in?
It easy enough for me to preach about the importance of making strategic decisions, but it’s a completely different thing to actually go about it and apply strong decision making to your goals and dreams. Here are a few things I’ve learned over the years transforming from a indecisive to someone who’s probably a little bit to stubborn.
1. Align your goals to your life – nobody else’s
This is probably one of the biggest challenges to accept and overcome because nobodies living your life but you. When making these big life choices, and setting the trajectory of your future, aligning the goals you want (and need) to achieve with your life and beliefs/values will help ensure that down the line you won’t regret the decision you chose.
2. Take advice from trusted people
However, don’t shy away from seeking advice from trusted people. Whether its your parents, teachers, friends, or even someone who you consider to be a mentor, seeking the opinion and guidance from these individuals is invaluable. When I first went to University, I wish I sought advice from the guidance councilor. I honestly believe that speaking through my educational objective would have helped with my focus and direction in university.
3. Avoid what’s popular
This is more advice for your goals, try to avoid setting goals purely based on what’s popular. Whether a location or a weight loss objective, it’s easy to get swept up in what’s cool to do in the moment. When making big decisions about your life, basing them on what’s popular in the moment is not a good strategy. We all will make poor choices, and regret the past, but coming into your own and becoming confident in yourself is one of the best moments of your life. The good people will stick by you, and the bad ones will leave, freeing up your time and emotions to do amazing things.
Then Write That Sh*t Down
Once you get on board with soul searching and define the direction you want to go towards…. it’s soooooo important to write it down. It is like a beautiful affirmation of all the thing you’re going to achieve in your life.