New Years Resolutions Day & Happy New Year!

Hello Bucket List peeps,

We just wanted to say that we really appreciate you and are excited for all that you will do in 2016!!! You may or may not know, but Jan 1 is always the busiest day of the year on our website. I was going to take a moment to write a “new year”/”new years resolutions” note but then I received a great email from an inspirational friend of mine Curtis Christopherson (AKA “Coach Curtis”, thats what I call him anyways ;-)) and I thought it was a perfect message to share with our community. Hope you guys enjoy it reading it as much as I did this morning.

Bart


Here is the email:

Subject:  New Years Resolutions Day & Happy New Year

For many people this is the last day before they “change their lives forever”. This is the last day of gluttony before they begin to eat their new diet, this is the last day of sloth before they decide to exercise, or this is their last day of greed before they begin to spend more time with their families. This is the day of high hopes and good intentions, the day where everyone is planning on becoming better.

Unfortunately, the reality for the majority of resolutioners is that this is the last day you will have hope, because most resolutions don’t make it out of the first month.

This doesn’t mean that we sack our hopes and continue with the status quo. This doesn’t mean that we throw our goals out the window and succumb to the life we are tired of living. This does mean that we need to understand why we fail so that we have the ability to continue once failure happens. Failure doesn’t stop our resolutions, quitting does. One (quitting) we have complete control over and the other (failure) we have partial control over.

The first reason our resolutions don’t work is because we fail to talk to ourselves correctly. When we make resolutions we frequently use the word “don’t”. “Don’t eat too much food”, “don’t miss the day at the gym”, “don’t waste the day”. When it comes to focus, your mind doesn’t recognize the word “don’t” and because of this we create a negative self-fulfilling prophecy which empowers exactly what we are trying not to do. If we put a purpose to our thinking then we have a more powerful thought process. “I am going to the gym today because………” allows us to focus on why we are doing what we are going to do and takes out the passive nature of “don’t”. When we speak to ourselves powerfully, we create powerful thinking, which then creates empowerment. And might…just might…create the RESULTS (aka change) we are after.

The second reason resolutions fail is because we attach our goals to people outside of ourselves. “I am going to spend more time with my family because they need to see me more often” is a great resolution but is essentially generic and external. Half of this resolution is dependant on the idea that your family will be around to spend time with you. Any changes we make in life need to be selfish acts. This does not mean that you are a selfish person; it just means that you need to take control over you before you can become anything to someone else. When we act on the behalf of others, they have the control. When control is outside of ourselves then we don’t stand a chance to make the change because we don’t have the investment in change.

The final reason resolutions fail is because we are afraid to fail. Our fear of failure allows us to back out once things get tough. By doing this we are able to justify to ourselves that we chose to quit, we didn’t fail the task. Your reality is that if you are making a resolution, at some point you will fail, temptation during the initial stages of change are just too great. Failure however is not the end point of the journey, instead it is a new beginning where you are able to start off smarter then you were the last time you started. If you are unwilling to accept your role in failure then you are destined to repeat the same exact failure. If you are willing to see your fault, then you are willing to go beyond fear and enter empowerment, which ultimately will create the change you are seeking.

If you are among the millions of people who make resolution at this time of year, remember that without the power of you, your resolutions don’t stand a chance. If your current state of mind won’t allow you to commit, then save yourself the time and don’t try to fake the commitment. If you are seeking change in life you need to understand that resolutions aren’t a once a year thing, resolutions are an every day effort that ebbs and flows with the demands and changes of your life; once you are ready to accept them.

On that note, in 2016 I encourage all of you to challenge yourself, be open to be challenged by someone else, take your health serious, focus on any goals you have set, be committed at achieving the results you are after, take risks, maximize opportunity, and most importantly take control of your destiny. Life is not easy and there will be obstacles and unforeseen challenges that will come your way but if you surround yourself with great people, you should have the support you need.

I’m looking forward to spending time, sharing thoughts, collaborating, and/or just rocking out life with each and every one of you next year. Happy New Year to all of you — my friends, family and peers!

Here is to a healthy, happy, and a very successful (whatever you deem that to be) year in 2016!

Curtis Christopherson

Coach Curtis

Check Coach Curtis out on Linked In & Twitter

Read More

2 Things Every Person on Earth Needs To Do Before They Die

The phenomenon that is ‘bucket lists’ really owes it’s catalyst to the 2007 movie “The Bucket List”  – fantastic movie, and if you haven’t  seen it, I highly recommend you do. So here’s a little bit of a spoiler, the two main characters, Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman are both diagnosed with terminal illness’s, which is why they decide to pursue their dreams, before the clock runs out. And although the movie is chocked full of inspirational quotes and tear-jerking scenes, there was one scene, in particular, that really really resonated with me. (more…)

Read More

If someone isn’t making you stronger, they’re making you weaker

“Do not underestimate the effects of your pessimistic, unambitious, or disorganized friends. If someone isn’t making you stronger, they’re making you weaker.”
– Tim Ferris The 4-hour Workweek 

Surround yourself with the best people

 

From a young age, I really tried to fit in with the ‘cool kids,’ which was difficult considering since around the 5th grade I’ve been 5’11”. As so many people know at that age when you stand out in any way, you don’t fit-in. And when you’re growing up in a small-ish town, you tend to go to school with the same people, making it nearly impossible to reinvent yourself, or be seen in a different light. (more…)

Read More

From Netflix marathons to running marathons – Kick the habit of superficial instant gratification

What do watching a Netflix marathon, and running an actual marathon have in common? Well, believe it or not, they both take incredible amounts of time, dedication, and focus, but in the former you’re also likely to gain a very big butt, and not a lot more. I myself, stand in front of you a – more – reformed Netflix addict. During my university days, and post university years, I would indulge in entire seasons of Orange is the New Black or Game of Thrones, like it was nobodies business. And when it was done, hours had passed but nothing had changed, for the worse or the better. It was extremely cathartic and comforting to spend my time in a way where you’re certain of the outcome, in a period of my life when so many other aspects seemed to be out of my control. But at the end of the day, it was a physically and mentally an unhealthy lifestyle to continue.
(more…)

Read More

Decide What You Want To Do in Life… Then Write That Sh*t Down

In life you have to be decisive. You have to make the difficult choices, and stand by the decision that you made.

Decision making didn’t always come naturally to me. In fact, around those most gloriously awkward pre-teen/teen years, I couldn’t make a decision to save my life. Now, however, it’s something that I believe should be taught more in school, but unfortunately during those formative years, we’re often left to flounder through life hoping that things work out.

(more…)

Read More

The 7 Simple Habits to Ignite Your Bucket List Goals

One month of 2015 down, just 11 more to go. At the end of the year, don’t reflect back and wish you’d been able to achieve more, to have seen more, or – worst of all – wish you were more. Today is a perfect day, and a perfect time in your life to turn your dreams into reality, there’s never going to be another day like today. If you’re truly ready to be an over accomplished individual, here are 7 simple  habits to ignite or reignite your bucket list passions.

The key word is habits – a pattern of behavior that becomes a person’s default response to a situation

(more…)

Read More

When in doubt be Arnold.

Listen to the wise, wise words of former Governor Schwarzenegger

Arnold may be the butt of many jokes now, but let’s never forget, he is an exceptionally devoted and successful achiever. When he sets his mind on accomplishing a goal, he crushes it. From becoming Mr. Olympia, to dominating movie franchises, to marrying a Kennedy, to running the sunny state of California, we here in the Bucket List community would call Arnold a goal setting superstar. Here’s to Arnold and his top 10 most motivational quotes and how you can terminate your bucket list – sorry couldn’t help it.

(more…)

Read More

F*ck Failure | F*ck Fear – Why Persistence Should Be Your Focus

Why Persistence Should Be Your Focus

Failing sucks. Sorry to be so blunt and abrasive, but it is just the worst and most infuriating thing in the world. Every time I fail, I’m angry, I’m embarrassed and I’m deterred from continuing on. On no level would I consider myself a perfectionist, but for some reason even the thought of letting myself or someone else down makes my brain go into overdrive and my stomach churn with anxiety. The fear of failure is a challenge I face on a daily basis – but 2015 is the year I’m pledging to say yes to more. By no means at all am I going to turn into Jim Carrey’s “Yes Man” but I’ve decided it’s the right time in my life to start going after what I truly want and let go of inhibitions and my preconceived notions of my limits. (more…)

Read More

Bucket List Failure

Failure as Part of the Bucket List Experience

Are some of your bucket list goals pretty wild? Way outside your comfort zone, not to mention your budget, skills or abilities? And are you afraid you may try and fail at some of these goals?

Then you and I have something in common.

My bucket list is the To Do list of an adventurous, athletic, wealthy genius. I love who I see when I look at that list: Michelle on top of mountains, Michelle racing cars, Michelle learning languages and living like an expat, owning a radio station and fighting with nunchucks.
(more…)

Read More